I will be sharing with us Love and Relationship. Either you are single or married, this article is for you.
And have you heard about DEW FOUNDATION?
We teach online to talk about LOVE, RELATIONSHIP, and MARRIAGE.
Based on our teaching, we bring to you, LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP.
I am pretty sure we have things to learn from our teaching.
Are you ready to answer a few questions on LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP too?
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Then let’s continue.
Mostly, what we call love is far from the kind of love that will sustain a relationship or marriage.
What you need is to look into yourself and determine whether the feelings and emotions that exist between you and your partner would stand the test of true love.
“Love can MAKE or BREAK people“.
That is the truth. So, you need to be very careful when interpreting your feelings.
We all believe the common misconception that human love can rescue us from our weaknesses, hurts, and failures.
But the truth is, only God can meet our needs and compensate for a lack of love from others.
Everywhere and across the globe, people seek love and that is one thing everybody, irrespective of color, creed, country, or gender desires.
So, in our quest to find love, our emotions, impulses, or lack of knowledge make us search in the wrong places.
I wrote the story of a young lady who learned the hard way because she was looking for love in the wrong places.
She sought approval and appreciation from her friends, and what they said provided the platform for her quest for love.
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After going through her story, one could see that it is wrong to search for love with another man.
When we have found the source of love which is God, he can then guide us to love someone else.
By then, we shall have received love ourselves in our own imperfection and be ready to bless, without exploiting someone else.
It is wrong searching for love with someone who does not reciprocate the love back to you.
“Love that flows from one direction is never enough to sustain a meaningful relationship”.
You know what?
Love must be reciprocal to be meaningful. If love given is always returned, there will be enough to go around.
The love I am talking about means different things to different people, but it depends on the understanding of the person expressing it.
Here are a few meanings some people gave to the definitions;
According to Ben Hecht; “A hole in the heart”.
Oscar Wilde expressed love as; “A mutual understanding”.
John Ford said; “A desperate madness”.
Charles Kingsley called it; “Sentimental measles” while Plato expressed Love as a grave mental disease.
Despite each author’s definitions of love, love can also be defined in the following ways;
1. Love is a euphemism for a sexual relationship
2. Love is a feeling of fondness towards a provider
3. Love is a feeling that may not last.
Asking two different people to tell me what love means to them, they will still have different ideas of what they are talking about.
Although, they may profess to love each other.
IS LOVE REALLY THAT ELUSIVE? ALSO, DOES IT REALLY HAVE TO MEAN DIFFERENT THINGS?
In the Greek language, Love has been broken down to represent diverse feelings that put us in this emotional state of mind.
And I have categories of Love to share with you.
Categorically, I have three major categories of Love below;
1. Covenant Love
2. Friendship Love
3. Romantic Love
This kind of love doesn’t make any demands on you.
Your partner loves you because of who you are and not because of what you do or how you make him or her feel.
Covenant love gives up the self and makes you accept that you are no longer on your own.
You have become one with another person, who has no right over himself or herself anymore.
THERE IS SOMETHING PARTICULAR ABOUT WE HUMAN.
When we become impatient with something that is inconvenient for us, what we do is getting rid of it.
We even try to exchange and replace without a second thought, even when we have problems in our relationship or marriage.
Covenant love which is also a commitment love is for better for worse.
No matter what your partner does to you, either right or wrong, there is one fact you cannot rationalize, remember you gave your word, your promise to forsake all others for as long as you both shall live.
COVENANT LOVE MAKES LOVE LAST.
Covenant love is essential to make your relationship and marriage work. Just be careful about how quickly you say, “I DO”.
WHAT DOES FRIENDSHIP LOVE DO?
Friendship love encourages the intimacy of knowing each other deeply, unconditionally accepting each other.
And also, giving each other the freedom to show depression, pain, anger, frustration, and the freedom of honest expression of personal feelings and thoughts, especially unpleasant ones.
At this love stage, emotions are merged with rational thinking and the emphasis is on mutual giving, sharing, and reciprocity.
FACT: “A RELATIONSHIP CAN’T DEVELOP UNLESS YOU ARE TRULY FREE TO BE YOURSELF”.
Unless you know that your partner accepts you unconditionally and promises to be there for you, you can’t be yourself entirely.
A marriage relationship is needed to be founded on careful intimacy that is developed.
Romantic love is love based on feelings and emotions. It is passion-induced.
It is a day-dreaming and obsessions of love.
I hope you are all aware that most relationships are triggered by “Love at first sight”?
And it is love that makes one come alive and feelings that are out of this world.
This love is about burning and being sexually attracted to someone.
Although Romantic love is essential for marriage if not nourished with friendship, time, and commitment, it will die off.
And it is too weak to build a marriage relationship on its own.
In conclusion, Covenant love makes love last, friendship love makes it functional and healthy, therefore, romantic love adds glamour and zest to the marriage (relationship).
Oh yes! You found this piece interesting.
I have just two questions for you and I will like you to drop your answers in the comment section below.
QUESTION 1: WHO IS A COVENANT PARTNER?
QUESTION 2: WHAT DOES LOVE MEANS TO YOU?